Baby Shower Etiquette

Etiquette is an important consideration that is not always talked about when it comes to hosting a baby shower. Here are a few good tips:

1) Don't be offended if someone cannot come - People often have busy schedules and sometimes cannot attend your party. It is a good idea not to hold a grudge. Some people can be shy or uncomfortable in these situations as well for their own reasons, so don't take it personally.

2) Asking someone to host a shower - Keep in mind that baby showers require a good amount of time and money to plan. If a friend wants to throw a shower, then they will probably volunteer. Asking, however, may put unwanted pressure on the friend. If you do want a shower, then you can drop hints or have family members hint that you are interested.

3) 2nd babies and adopted babies - Although baby showers are most often thrown for first born children, it is also acceptable to have such parties for adopted babies and 2nd born children. There is nothing wrong with celebrating a new child's arrival.

4) Inviting children and men - Men and children generally have different interests and thus different activities will need to be planned. The mother's preferences should determine who gets invited. It is acceptable to have an all girl's party.

5) Surprise showers - Whether to throw a surprise shower is a tricky consideration. Ask other friends and family members if the mother enjoys such surprises. Also, be sure that the mother is available on that given day and invite her to lunch or dinner on the shower date to guarantee that availability. It would be a huge inconvenience to the guests if the mother suddenly became unavailable on that day, so plan carefully.

6) Planning events - Remember that the shower is for the new mother, so make sure to get as much input as possible and be open to her ideas if you are the host.

7) Guest etiquette - Be sure to congratulate the new mother and father and talk to them for a little bit. It is nice to bring a gift as well, unless they specifically requested that no gifts should be given.

8) Throwing your own shower - If you are a new mom, it is okay to throw your own baby shower. However, it is probably a good idea not to call it a baby shower, but just a party. Normally, baby showers are hosted by a friend of the mother and it might seem a little strange to some people if the mother is the host. Nevertheless, it is perfectly fine to host a party and have friends over.

These etiquette tips should help you and your guests have a wonderful baby shower experience.